Short answer: He may be losing interest if, compared to the start, he replies slower, rarely texts first, stops asking you questions and stops making plans, all at the same time. One slow day means nothing. A steady drop over a few weeks means something. Our 10-question quiz compares now with the beginning and gives you a losing-interest score, so you can tell a real change from overthinking.
How the quiz works
Each question compares two moments: the first weeks of talking or dating, and now. Think about the last two or three weeks, not just today. You get a losing-interest score from 0 to 100%, and a higher score means more signs he's pulling away.
| Score | Result | What it means |
|---|---|---|
| 70 to 100% | He seems to be pulling away | Almost everything dropped at once. |
| 45 to 69% | Some real distance | Effort is lower. Time for a calm talk. |
| 20 to 44% | Normal settling, mostly | The first rush is over, which is normal. |
| 0 to 19% | You're probably overthinking | He still shows up. |
The quiz works for anyone, not only "him". Answer about the person you're thinking of.
Signs he's losing interest: now vs the start
| What to watch | At the start | When interest drops |
|---|---|---|
| Reply speed | Minutes | Hours, sometimes a day |
| Who texts first | Often him | Almost always you |
| Questions | He asks about your day | He answers, then nothing |
| Plans | He suggests dates | You plan, he cancels |
| Good morning texts | Every day | Gone |
| Calls | Long and often | Short or none |
| Excuses | A real reason and a new plan | "Busy", no new plan |
| Message length | Sentences and emoji | "lol", "ya", "k" |
One row changing is normal. Many rows changing together is the pattern. Read the full guide on losing interest over text, or what to do when he stopped texting you.
Is he losing interest or just busy?
Busy people still care, and it shows. A busy guy tells you he's busy, says why, and comes back with a plan: "Crazy week, can we do Saturday?" Someone who is losing interest stays vague, and the plan never comes.
Busy is also usually temporary. If "busy" has lasted two months, it's probably not about his schedule. Our post on reply time meaning explains what slow replies can and can't tell you.
Is he losing interest or am I overthinking?
The start of anything is intense. Texting all day can't last forever, and when it slows down, it can feel like rejection even when it's just comfort. A few signs you might be overthinking:
- He replies slower, but he still asks questions and makes plans.
- You see him in person as much as before, or more.
- The worry gets worse at night or when you're stressed.
- You've felt this same fear in past relationships too.
If that last one sounds like you, read about anxious attachment. It explains why small changes can feel so big.
What to do if your score is high
- Ask, don't test. Sending more texts to see if he replies only adds stress. Ask one calm question: "I've noticed we talk less than before. Is everything okay with us?"
- Listen to the answer, then watch what follows. Words are easy. A real answer comes with real effort.
- Match his energy for a while. Not as a game, just to protect your time and your peace.
- Decide what you need. If he can't or won't give it, that's an answer too.
Your chat remembers the start
Your memory isn't neutral when you care about someone. Your WhatsApp chat has the real numbers. The Cringe shows his average reply time next to yours, who starts conversations more often and how many messages each of you sends. The AI report adds an interest level for each person, so you're not left guessing from one slow reply.
FAQ
How do you know if he is losing interest?
Compare now with the start. If he replies slower, rarely texts first, asks fewer questions and makes fewer plans, all at once and for weeks, he may be losing interest.
Is he losing interest or just busy?
A busy person explains and makes a new plan. Someone losing interest stays vague and lets you do the work. Busy usually ends. Losing interest usually doesn't.
Is it normal for texting to slow down in a relationship?
Yes. The first weeks are often intense, and texting slows as you get comfortable. It's only a problem when effort drops everywhere, not just the number of texts.
Should I ask him if he's losing interest?
Yes, calmly and with a specific example. "I've noticed we talk less, is everything okay?" is better than guessing for weeks.
Am I overthinking or is he pulling away?
If he still makes plans and asks about your life, you're probably overthinking. If plans, questions and replies all dropped together, he's probably pulling away.